Do You Really Know What You Want?

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary ~Steve Jobs~
 
Could you use more clarity on what you really want to create in your life?
 
It starts with knowing yourself and knowing what’s important to you. Do you know what your core values are? If you understand what matters most to you, you’ll find all the choices you need to make are much easier. The clarity that comes from discovering your core values will help to pull you forward and you will experience less frustration. 
 
Sometimes that clarity comes from recognizing what you want versus what someone else wants for you.  Clear out any expectations that others have of you. Often we get confused because we think the things others want for us belong to us. They don’t.  Be strong and do not take ownership of others wants.
Our own wants will have a lot of energy around them (excitement, thrill, enthusiasm, passion).  If you feel low energy about something, it’s probably not something you want or you associate it with too much work and effort to get it.  That low energy will prevent you from moving forward and if you tell yourself that it was something you really wanted–then you set yourself up to feel as if you have failed.
Most of our confusion comes from not taking the time to think about what we really want.  To obtain that clarity you must take the time for yourself to really think about what you want in your life.  Block out some time to make lists of those things you want to be, have or do.  Keep adding to that list until you run dry.  Do not let your enternal judge sensor your list.  Think of this process as an archeological dig. It’s a process of discovery.  You might have to dig for awhile, though. It may take a number of sessions, but it will be time well invested, because you’ll be working on things you TRULY want–things for which you have passion.

 
Once you feel complete let your list sit for some time, a few hours, a day or even a week.  When you are ready come back to your list and begin a process of elimination.  Take your list and one by one ask yourself if I can only create four or five things in my life which ones could I not live without.  This will help you determine what your top passions really are.  I discovered when I went through this process that a few on the things on my list would actually fall under one of my most important passions, to help support others in achieving their dreams.  Keep your list and add to it as new things come to you.  You should go through this process a couple of times a year, because life changes and so do your passions.
 
After you have identified those top four or five things that you really want in your life write out a story about your life when you have achieved them.  Use great detail and write one page for each item.  This will help you to have that clarity.
When you are certain about what you want, you can be more conscious about your intent. And the more conscious you are regarding your intent, the more probable your extraordinary success.
Mark Twain said it over a hundred years ago: “I can teach anybody how to get what they want out of life. The problem is I can’t find anybody who can tell me what they want.” 
 
You can create anything you want in your life but you must be accountable to yourself to make it happen.  That accountability begins with knowing what it is you really, really want.

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