What I have noticed about most people is that they don’t possess the courage to ask for what they really want in their lives. When was the last time to told someone close to you what you needed from them? Have you told someone you need to be told your special, that on Tuesdays you need extra attention, that you want your laundry completed a certain way, or that you need support for a project you want to take on? Or are you one of those people who expect others to intuitively know what they need and want from them, and then when you don’t get it you feel entitled to be angry?
Why do many of us feel that telling others, asking others for what we want and need in life is somehow selfish? I believe that it feels too risky to expose ourselves, to be seen as selfish or pushy, or to face the fact that it is possible that the request will be rejected. Who likes rejection? The risk feels too great and the prospect of losing someon’es acceptance too overwhelming, so we remain silent.
Ask yourself, “do you ever want something yet say nothing just to be polite or keep from rocking the boat?” Promoise yourself that you will no longer remain silent in the face of a temperamental or unreasonable person. Choose to take control of your life.
Take full responsibility for filling your needs. Giving up what you really want and need in your life will create resentment that comes when your needs are not fulfilled. Choose not to be a volunteer victim.
Examine what you really want and need in your life. If you do not know what you want you can not communicate it to others. Know what you want and communicate it with courage.
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